And so in a minor way I was involved in the internet and computer animation. To have killed off newspapers and drawn animation to have been participated in that in any way is a horrible sin I can not be forgiven for.
Showing posts with label internet. Show all posts
Showing posts with label internet. Show all posts
Sunday, October 22, 2023
Saturday, June 25, 2022
Global Wahrman is being Blocked / Censored
A friend at the Phoenix airport tried to reach my blog (I guess she was really bored) and got the following notice. This is good news because it means I am finally saying something sufficiently interesting that the right wing nuts who run our country (or our internet) found the need to block me. First amendment? Not for people like me, I guess.
It might be because she was using a Boingo-managed hotspot, whoever they are.
Sunday, March 15, 2020
Are Interpretations of Silence a Form of Delusion of Reference?
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I do perhaps 99 percent of my social interaction via "electronic mediation" whether that be texting, email, Facebook, telephone or instant messaging. Sometimes a friend does not reply and then time passes and he/she does not reply to another message and then months go by and he/she does not respond to another message (email, whatever) that may be particularly chosen to be easy to reply to and relevant, entertaining, whatever to his/her interests.
Obviously I wonder if I am being ghosted. But there are lots of reasons a friend might be doing this beyond the possibility that one is being ghosted, ostracised or rejected. He/she may be going through a particularly intense time in their family or in their career or in other areas of their life. They might be helping a friend or themselves get through a serious illness. They might be travelling or trying to make a deadline that is not happening for them. There are lots of things that may be going on. After all, it is likely that you are not the center of interest in their life even if you are a friend for many years.
But since sometimes you are being ghosted, or at least that has happened to me in the past, and so the question is, is it a delusion of reference to interpret silence as a signal of social rejection? Maybe "delusions of reference" lite?
Delusions of Reference on Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ideas_of_reference_and_delusions_of_reference
[Addendum: the best algorithm I have found for evaluating if you are ghosted, is as follows: You send short emails at a constantly increasing interval: e.g. 1 week, 1 month, 3 months, 6 months, etc. Each email is constructed to be easy to respond to. No major questions that require thought. Then if you still dont hear from him after some long period of time, you assume you are ghosted and try not to worry about it.]
[Addendum: my friend got back to me, so I am not exactly ghosted, and he is probably just very busy. However, it definitely makes me wonder if I have overstepped some bound, so we will see.]
I do perhaps 99 percent of my social interaction via "electronic mediation" whether that be texting, email, Facebook, telephone or instant messaging. Sometimes a friend does not reply and then time passes and he/she does not reply to another message and then months go by and he/she does not respond to another message (email, whatever) that may be particularly chosen to be easy to reply to and relevant, entertaining, whatever to his/her interests.
Obviously I wonder if I am being ghosted. But there are lots of reasons a friend might be doing this beyond the possibility that one is being ghosted, ostracised or rejected. He/she may be going through a particularly intense time in their family or in their career or in other areas of their life. They might be helping a friend or themselves get through a serious illness. They might be travelling or trying to make a deadline that is not happening for them. There are lots of things that may be going on. After all, it is likely that you are not the center of interest in their life even if you are a friend for many years.
But since sometimes you are being ghosted, or at least that has happened to me in the past, and so the question is, is it a delusion of reference to interpret silence as a signal of social rejection? Maybe "delusions of reference" lite?
Delusions of Reference on Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ideas_of_reference_and_delusions_of_reference
[Addendum: the best algorithm I have found for evaluating if you are ghosted, is as follows: You send short emails at a constantly increasing interval: e.g. 1 week, 1 month, 3 months, 6 months, etc. Each email is constructed to be easy to respond to. No major questions that require thought. Then if you still dont hear from him after some long period of time, you assume you are ghosted and try not to worry about it.]
[Addendum: my friend got back to me, so I am not exactly ghosted, and he is probably just very busy. However, it definitely makes me wonder if I have overstepped some bound, so we will see.]
Monday, April 22, 2019
Internet Protocol (Not What You Think)
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Nobody knows how to be polite on the Internet. What are the proper hours for email? What are the proper hours for texting? If I know you dont read email, but you dont want to be texted, then that means that you are essentially saying "dont contact me". Fine, but what if I am supposed to be working with you. Another person says "dont send me attachments" and gets angry when you do, but you did not know he had this rule (and no one else does). Another person says "dont email me when you are angry" but I wasnt angry, but if you say that they get angry and accuse you of not caring about their feelings.
So everyone has their rules and they expect the other party to know them and to comply.
Is this reasonable? Is this treating the other party with minimal respect, or is it just self indulgent and self entitled? In none of the cases are my opinions or feelings on the matter sought. I am informed "how it will be" and if I dont like it, I can stop talking to them.
Which ultimately may be the best solution.
Isnt it great how the Internet has made communication so much better?
Nobody knows how to be polite on the Internet. What are the proper hours for email? What are the proper hours for texting? If I know you dont read email, but you dont want to be texted, then that means that you are essentially saying "dont contact me". Fine, but what if I am supposed to be working with you. Another person says "dont send me attachments" and gets angry when you do, but you did not know he had this rule (and no one else does). Another person says "dont email me when you are angry" but I wasnt angry, but if you say that they get angry and accuse you of not caring about their feelings.
So everyone has their rules and they expect the other party to know them and to comply.
Is this reasonable? Is this treating the other party with minimal respect, or is it just self indulgent and self entitled? In none of the cases are my opinions or feelings on the matter sought. I am informed "how it will be" and if I dont like it, I can stop talking to them.
Which ultimately may be the best solution.
Isnt it great how the Internet has made communication so much better?
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