Those of us who are ghosted realize that we have no rights in the matter and that you can ghost us whenever you like for whatever reason you like. But consider....
Ghosting causes us to worry. Did we say something wrong? Is my friend in trouble, possibly in bad health? Maybe in the hospital? Maybe dead? Are they not getting the messages? Should we "ping" them again? Would that be annoying?
Far better would be to notify the individual that you are going to be out of touch. Say you are working on something important and wont be able to talk much over the next year or two. Try to let us down gently and warn us that your silence does not imply that you are dead or in trouble.
That would be much more polite and courteous.
Even better is to reply to one out of maybe 3 or 4 emails. An email that you can easily reply to and which demonstrates good will. After a while, we will realize that you dont want to talk much and will accept that yet we are still in touch. The best people I know, those who are far more successful than I, do that and I appreciate the courtesy.
Remember, this is not just about you. We have made an investment in good faith in time and energy. We have put up with you, maybe you can put up with us.
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